Did you get through the silly season with zero regrets, cringe-y moments or dignity-destroying drinking sessions? You're an example to us all, then, if you're holding your head high post-holiday. For the rest of us... Rachel has some quick solutions to any lingering guilt and shame (guess which one comes from one of my own mortifying Christmas parties past?!)
“I revealed my old shoplifting habit to my boss at the Christmas party! I’m mortified. Should I broach it with her?”
You don’t need to broach the subject- continuing to discuss it could just make an awkward situation worse. But if you must say something, send your boss a brief email that says, ‘I think I may have told you about my terrible teenage habit at the holiday party and I apologize for oversharing. I’m grateful that my past is in the past. My apologies!’ And then leave it alone and repeat your new mantra, When in doubt, leave it out.
“I think I offended a friend by not including them in my NYE plans - how should I handle it?”
We often have such high expectations for New Year’s Eve to be the best, most special night of the year, that we can create a lot of pressure for our friends, loved ones and ourselves! It’s OK that you didn’t see this friend on NYE. There are 364 other days to hang out that aren’t so laden with expectation. Reach out to your friend to make plans this week. Make sure they know that they are important to you.
“I kissed someone because I was drunk, not because I like them - and now they seem to think we’re going to be together forever. How can I politely rid them of this impression?”
Can’t you make out a little without always having to explain yourself?! Two options: A direct no or the fade away. If you’re being direct, say, “I’m very flattered, but I’m not interested in beginning a romantic relationship.” If you’re fading away, stop responding to any attempts to connect- they will get the picture.