Binnie is 78 and lives in Chicago. I met her at Miraval Resort & Spa in Tucson, where we chatted about love, life and why Saks is the ultimate pick-up joint.
When you wanna buy a car, whaddaya do? You research! You talk to the people who own the car. You go to the car dealer. You test drive. But when you wanna get married, you go to a bar and meet some guy and expect it to be perfect. Wrong! You've gotta put as much energy and as much research in as you do when you're buying a car. So many people marry just for the physical attraction, which lasts for about six weeks. You have to approach it more intelligently. It's an important decision, let me tell you!
People think that the person for them is going to fall in their lap. No! Nothing falls in your lap. But half the world believes this, because when they were little children they read fairy tales and think Prince Charming is going to come along. That. Does. Not. Happen. Just like you have to work on school, and you have to work at your career - meeting the right guy requires work.
I once gave some good advice to a single friend. I told her, I said: on Saturdays, walk through the men's department in Saks. Quality. Men. And that's what she did. And she met someone!
I've been married twice - once to a man I was madly in love with, for 30 years. It broke up because he was physically abusive. You can get down for a little while, but then you have to realise that the only person suffering is you. When we separated, all my friends wanted to fix me up with friends of their husbands. I said, don't you call him - have your husband call him. Because they don't wanna hear it from the wives. That's how I met my second husband, and we've been married for 20-some years.